People think blogging is some type of constant party with celebrities, free gifts, trips, clothes and the best of everything. While some people’s social media highlight reels paint that picture that’s not always the case.
Do you ever hear about us spending 5 hours working on 1, just 1 blog post that could later be torn apart by readers? Or spending our own money to attend these events so you can live vicariously through us? Nope. You probably haven’t and wouldn’t care. Readers just want their “tea” or info.
So what is a blogger to do when they feel isolated, burnt out, tired, frustrated, overwhelmed? Most times they have no one who understands them. That’s where blog groups come into place. Now I’m not saying that blogging is some horrible career and everyone must avoid it but let’s be real here for a second. There is a lot more to that 1 photo, that 1 video, that 1 blog post you see.
The Houston African American Bloggers group was something a blogging friend, Tamara Floyd of Natural Hair Rules, invited me to join. I did and was so happy to see bloggers who looked like me, who understood some of the same things I was going through as a blogger of color. Fast forward to June 2015 and here I am the Organizer of the group. Lots of responsibility but in the process it has made me truly connect for the first time with an amazing group of bloggers. These bloggers are phenomenal.
Since the group has finally gotten underway I have learned probably more than I’ve shared. I have meet new people right here in Houston that I probably wouldn’t have otherwise. The encouragement we give one another is unmatched. The members are committed to building a real community where we help one another get paid.
As a blogger since 2009, I have struggled trying to balance the blog world with my daily life. So many people don’t have a clue what I deal with as I build Women Are Gamechangers into something. But bloggers get other bloggers. It just may take a second for you to find your tribe. I found mine in 2014 and very grateful for this opportunity.
If you’re a blogger I highly suggest you find your blogging tribe. You would be amazed at the growth of not just your blog but of you as a person will have. I do belong to a few other blog groups that are just online and meet annually for their conference. With the exception of one that actually meets in person monthly here in Houston. But to me that’s not enough. I needed something more. And with the Houston African American Bloggers group we not only meet in person quarterly but we share information and host trainings that keep us all up to do with what’s going on in the blogging world. From a perspective we can relate to.
As an introvert it’s been a frustrating challenge to connect with people. I have my group of friends which I love dearly. They get me business wise but notsomuch from the blogging perspective. I felt that a piece of me was going to drain away slowly if I didn’t get connected with people who completely get it.
I joined the Houston African American Bloggers group because I wanted to be connected to people who do what I do and look like me. I wanted to be comfortable asking for help, getting feedback and building blog relationships with people I had just met. Call it what you wish but sometimes us introverts have to use what works for us to make ish happen. This is my truth about blogging.