Episode 12 kicked off asking, “Has anyone said you look like an angry black woman?” with my biz friend known as @callherdonna online but in real life she’s Donna L. Johnson of DonnaSpeaks.com.
My experience being called angry black woman and how I handled that.
The difference between smiling and laughing. And why you shouldn’t force someone to smile if they choose not to.
When you’re called intimidating.
It’s not your job to make other people feel comfortable if that means you must silence your own voice.
I’m not the caption of the business cheerleading squad.- Donna L. Johnson
How the stereotype of being ambitious is turned into being angry for black women.
Book- Shifting: The Double Lives of Black Women in America
Handling situations when you walk into a room and the rumor unknown to you is you’re an angry black woman.
Don’t give from the overflow from your cup. Give from the overflow off your saucer. – Vernetta R. Freeney
Why is this topic even a conversation that must be had?
Do you love you?
Don’t apologize for who you are or that you want to be successful.
Define your success.
Your message isn’t for everyone.
How do you become comfortable being yourself?
Do you know what you like? What do you like to do? What makes you happy?
Spending time alone gives you time to really connect with yourself.
Do you still believe in the beliefs you were raised with? Why or why not? It’s okay to challenge those beliefs. That shows you are growing into your own person. That you’re seeking truth.
You have to unlearn behavior.
It’s okay to embrace your emotions.
Your personal drama will spill over into your professional life. So take care of your personal issues.
I have a great spirit of discernment.
Don’t sacrifice yourself for your customers.
You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.
Are you a people pleaser?
If people don’t ask for it, then don’t give it to them.
It’s okay to share your experience with others because it just may help them.
It’s not your responsibility to be the rock for everybody. Your mental health is more important.
Prevent frustration by managing your time and responsibilities. Busyness doesn’t equal ambition.
My trip to Haiti.
“You’re moving but if anyone were to ask you what direction you’re going in, you would be clueless.” – Donna L. Johnson
Final toast- Unlearn behaviors to learn how to be you.
It doesn’t matter what you do, you will be criticized so you might as well be criticized for being who you genuinely are.
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About Donna L. Johnson:
street smart. far from perfect. almost famous.